Discovering the Relevance of Words
I am a person who thrives on prolonging everything. I tempt the fates of bad relationships, caustic friendships, and seemingly endless amounts of drama and anxiety that really doesn’t have any true worth. When something ends, I tend to act like Eeyore, and mope my way into a dark corner until something better comes along. Even if that “something” isn’t really the healthiest decision.
In theory, I am a realist. In practice, I’m typically an idiot when it comes to moving on and letting go. I know that things end, and need to come to an end, but I take way too long to get there. I don’t like conflict. I don’t like feeling guilty. I don’t like clicking the “unfriend” button on Facebook, because I wonder how the other person will react. I don’t like telling people that something is over, and frankly, if I can get someone else to say it, I’m more than happy to respond in kind. Luckily, I’m actually in a really great place these days, with a great relationship, a solid base of friends, and no real “endings” in sight. Phew.
All that said, bad endings, or endings in general, make for creativity.
I find that when it comes to literature, some of the best endings leave me angry, and wanting more from the character. It’s when I know the author has done their job. They’ve understood that not everything has to have a happy ending; because, after all, we are real, and not everything is full of butterflies and rainbows. I think the angriest I’ve ever been at the ending of a book was JM Coetzee’s Disgrace. I was so upset at how the character was left, that I actually threw the book against a wall, and threw a mini temper tantrum. I didn’t feel it was fair, and I wasn’t prepared for it to go in that direction. I felt unfulfilled, even though everything about the end made sense. I don’t want to give anything away, so please go read the book, and let me know if I’m crazy.
Endings are difficult. If they weren’t, we’d miss out on great lyrics, literature, and film.
What are some of your favorite endings? How did you handle them? Think life, literature, film, and whatever else you can think of for this topic.